Decisions Aren’t Rational. So Why Do We Keep Pretending They Are?
If there’s one thing I’ve learned while leading
Journeys & Decisions, it’s this:
people rarely make decisions the way they think they do.
It doesn’t matter whether someone is trying to choose what to eat, where to travel, which product to trust for their health or what to buy for their home, people give us beautifully packaged stories about their decisions.
But the behaviour underneath? A lot more tangled, emotional and instantly influenced than they realise. And for me, that gap the
‘say-do gap’ is where the real magic happens.

THE SAY-DO GAP: WHERE THE REAL STORY BEGINS...
One of the things our Centre of Excellence emphasises is that consumers are often poor witnesses to their own behaviour.
We see this repeatedly when we compare what people claim with what they actually do across real world journeys, whether we’re observing them in stores, analysing their digital behaviour, tracking how they move through a category or mapping how they navigate different roles like shopper vs. user vs. decision maker.
Leading on this area for Boxclever has given me license to lean into that complexity rather than oversimplify it. I get to ask:
- What’s really driving this choice?
- What’s shaping the journey that the person isn’t consciously aware of?
- Where are the emotional spikes, shortcuts or frictions that the customer can’t articulate but absolutely reacts to?
And honestly, uncovering that truth never gets old.

WHAT REAL WORLD BEHAVIOUR REVEALS THAT SURVEYS NEVER WILL...
THE “AISLE DRIFT” PHENOMENON
Shoppers will confidently tell you they “walk in, compare, decide.” It sounds calm, linear, and logical.
But when you actually watch journeys unfold, you realise it’s anything but.
What really happens are tiny, almost imperceptible detours, a colour that catches the eye, a product placed slightly off‑centre, someone else reaching for an item, a disruption in their path. These micro‑moments nudge people into new directions without them ever noticing.
To them, the journey feels intentional.
To us, observing it, the route has quietly rewritten itself in real time.
Their decisions shift, even though their story of the journey stays exactly the same.
THE “I RESEARCHED EVERYTHING” ILLUSION
Online, people love to believe they carried out a thorough, rational comparison:
“I looked at everything. I weighed up my options. I picked the best one.”
But when you look at digital behaviour, the truth is far more human.
People skim. They bounce. They dart between reassurance cues. They follow emotional breadcrumbs; familiarity, trust signals, instant recognition, comfort.
The journey is full of shortcuts and fast scans, shaped by instinct more than logic.
And the calm, rational narrative they recount afterwards?
That’s often the tidy explanation their mind provides after the emotional decision has already been made.
THE ADVICE THAT MATTERS MOST
When someone is making a sensitive or high‑stakes decision, something involving their body, their family, their wellbeing or their finances, the thing they cling to isn’t the exact wording or the detailed content they saw.
They forget the specifics. But they never forget how something made them feel.
A sense of safety.
A feeling of warmth.
A moment of clarity or reassurance.
That emotional imprint becomes the thing they follow.
And it often shapes their choice far more strongly than any rational preference they can articulate later.
THE CHOICE YOU MAKE BEFORE YOU KNOW YOU'VE MADE IT
In some journeys, the “decision” doesn’t happen at the comparison stage at all.
It happens much earlier. Quietly, subconsciously and long before people think they’re choosing.
When we map the journey, we can see the moment of commitment: a cue that resonates, a need that crystallises, a familiar anchor, a sense of trust that forms instantly.
But people swear they kept evaluating all the way to the end.
What they’re really doing is justifying a choice they already made.
ALL THESE PATTERNS SHOW THE SAME THING...
People think they make decisions with logic and clarity.
But time and time again, behaviour speaks louder than claims.
And that’s exactly why Journeys & Decisions exists.
WHY THIS MATTERS...
Our Journeys & Decisions Centre of Excellence is built around decoding this complexity using a blend of:
- Observational techniques
- Behaviour change frameworks
- Decision making hierarchies
- Digital ethnography
- Semiotics and visual decoding
- Eye tracking
- Advanced analytics
These tools aren’t just “methods.” They’re ways of seeing what customers can’t articulate.
And when we piece all of that together, we often find the true levers of influence, the ones organisations overlook when they rely solely on what people say.
For example, journeys are rarely linear. They’re filled with loops, shortcuts, emotional checks, moments of doubt and moments of momentum. By identifying the real drivers of decisions and the points where value is won or lost, we help teams refocus investment, sharpen propositions and design experiences that actually fit the way people behave.

OBSERVING PEOPLE IS HUMBLING. HERE'S WHAT IT'S TAUGHT ME...
Leading Journeys & Decisions has changed how I see every day behaviour.
I’ve become far more aware of the tiny influences that shape the choices we don’t think twice about, and far more sceptical of the neat stories we tell ourselves afterwards.
It’s also reinforced something I’m proud of: our ability as a team to ‘make the complex simple’.
We don’t shy away from the messy reality of behaviour.
We embrace it, illuminate it and translate it into something organisations can act on.

MAPPING THE MESS: HOW JOURNEYS GET CLEAR WHEN YOU LOOK CLOSELY
Because beneath every decision lies a journey people don’t fully see.
Our job is to reveal it. Clearly, accurately and in a way that unlocks growth.
It’s work I’m genuinely passionate about. And it’s work I believe matters.
If you suspect your customers’ real world behaviour doesn’t quite match the story you’re hearing, or if your journeys feel more complex than your current insight explains, I’d love to talk.
Journeys & Decisions exists to reveal what truly drives choices, and to help you turn that understanding into action.

You can contact Christian, our Journeys & Decisions lead, by using the email button below, or calling on +44 (0)7939 348 311
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